April 29, 2010

Happiness and Work

Filed under: Happiness — The Happiness Duo @ 1:35 am

Work and Happiness

If you were to ask the question, “What do you really want out of life,” most people would answer, “Happiness.”   

            Unfortunately, “happiness” is a bit like love.   It can’t be bought.   It can be argued that true love can be bought in a pet shop.   It comes inbuilt with the puppy or kitten you purchase.  But happiness cannot be bought at all.    You see, it is a by-product.

            Yet it  is so important to us.

We need to have a worthwhile Ideal

What is this thing we long for but cannot define?   How does it fit in with our attitudes towards our work, our career?   We feel it does have something to do with success.  But before we can venture further, it might be in our interests to define what success is.  And the best definition I’ve heard to date is that “Happiness is the progressive realization of a worthwhile ideal.”   I guess the author meant: Happiness results from or out of the progressive realization of such.

           All right so how does this relate to work?   We talking happiness and work here, aren’t we?   

          We are.   But let’s get back to our ideal. 

           So we have to have within us what we regard as a worthwhile ideal.

            Fortunately, we have many: being a good husband, wife, father, mother, son, daughter, friend;  undertaking successfully a personal project such as painting the kitchen, planting a tree, or obtaining a desired job; or doing something we consider really worthwhile for our group, our club, our community, city or nation.   These last get progressively difficult as our dreams expand in grandeur.

            On the larger scale, our dreams can be fraught with frustration.  And rightly so.  For what we deem to be worthwhile might not be worthwhile at all.  ‘ The road to hell is paved with good intentions,’ goes the saying.

            But there is one area easily accessible to most of us that is both worthwhile and can bring that elusive phenomenon known as happiness.  And that is providing good service.  By giving of our best, cheerfully, willingly-  and remaining unattached to the outcome.   We can do this most easily through our work; our gainful employment.

            Remaining unattached to the outcome is important.   If we purposely seek reward for our good deed or good service then the chances are that feelings of happiness will be ameliorated by our thoughts of reward – and our increasing bitterness when our efforts are overlooked, or criticized.

            But if we work cheerfully, conscientiously, to the best of our capacity at the time, free of self-criticism (and perhaps ignore the criticism of others) then all sorts of things start to happen.   We get better at our work.  We like it more.   We get lost in our occupation and the time flies.   And we are not only obtaining success but also find, when we look back on the minutes or hours spent, that we were happy after all.    So work can be a tool to happiness.  It’s certainly worth giving it a try…don’t you think?

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April 17, 2010

Email to a fellow writer

Filed under: Happiness — The Happiness Duo @ 12:06 am

No, no need to go to those lengths.   Re-writing the whole thing  isn’t necessary.   It’s just that you refer to “Mind” as the be all and end all.  

          This isn’t the case.    Our mind is a tool of the Real Us   We are the Observer, the Witness, the Higher Self, call it what you may.   This Observer is the part of us that never changes.   Our body, our emotions, our mind (contents, beliefs, etc) are of us but not us.

          When you look out through non-judgemental, non-labelling, non-discrimminating eyes, whether you’re two years old or one-hundred and two, You see the world.  You see it without interpretation.  Mind does the interpretation.   

          A major part of You (the Real or Higher Self) is also the decision-maker, the Will of the Higher Self, as distinct from the will of the little self or ego or conditioned self.

          I think you need to include a glossary of terms.   And when you compile it, be very careful how you interpret the word “Mind” for your readers.    The will of the ‘conditioned mind’ is the will of the ego.   The Will of the Higher Self (Nature, Life, God – once again call it what you want) is the Will of the Real Self.   The Will of our Higher Self is in alignment -because it is part of, or so I believe-  Universal Will.   Our Higher Will and our Higher Self are part of God.

          This Higher Part of us can be likened to one infinitely small spark of The All.   It could be likened to one water molecule in an infinite ocean.   But it is the same as the rest of that ocean.  And this ocean is all that is: an Infinite Creator and Witness to Its own creations.    The creations are illusory as far as this part of us is concerned: they arise, stay for a while, and pass away.

          Anyway, I hope this is of some help.


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April 15, 2010

You Are Creative – Let your creativity bloom! by Dr. YKK (Yew Kam Keong, Ph.D

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Chapter One

Joy and Happiness

We can get more joy and happiness out of our lives by harnessing our power of creativity.   The more creative we are, the more of a person we become: continuing to grow; feeling more alive; becoming charged with enthusiasm and leading a more meaningful and fulfilling life.   Creative effort is an antidote to worry.   Worry is essentially the wrongful use of our imagination.

Creative people love what they do.   It it not the hope of achieving fame or amassing wealth that drives them; rather, it is the opportunity to do the things they love most.   They feel an inner glow that exudes a sense of happiness.

We are most creative during our childhood days.   This stage is also our happiest.  Studies have shown that on the average the little child laughs about 400 times a day whereas the average adult laughs only 15 times a day. 

Capitalizing on creativity promotes a positive outlook and sense of well-being that boosts the immune system.   It keeps us healthy.   And a healthy person is a happier person.

According to a Reuter’s report, creative people tend to lead a more active sex life, which researchers said was no coincidence.   Their creativity seems to act like a sexual magnet.   A good example is the famous artist, Pablo Picasso…

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April 13, 2010

Inner Quest Our Search for Happiness, by Arthur Thomas Ware

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Chapter One – Going Within.

Want to come on a fantastic voyage? Want to journey into the heart of your own self? Want to truly comprehend your own being with greater understanding than you ever have before? Then come aboard. Sail with me as we explore these internal worlds within our own selves. It’ll be a trip you’re likely to remember – always.

     Forty-two years ago, in 1968, this old ex-sailor embarked on an ‘internal’ voyage.   I didn’t sail out over the sea.   I went below it.   Like a nuclear submarine, I dived deep, going below the surface of normal, everyday things.   This internal Odyssey took me within my ‘self.’   My own awareness penetrated my physical body – then into various layers of my emotions and my mind.   This was a psychic trip.  I dived beyond the usual internal self-talk phenomenon, into silence.    And from silence came the answers I sought.   They continue to come.

     Like so many people, I’d already asked myself: ” What am I?” “Why am I here?”  “Do I have a specific purpose?”  No answers came; not at first.   Then, gradually, over the years, they did.  “You were born to make people happy.”   That was in 1987.   Then, much later:  “Life is about making friends, and becoming friends with old enemies, and acquiring the qualities which allow this.”

     Here is the first part of a message I received via automatic writing in February 2002.

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December 31, 2009

Who Stole Your Happiness? by Dr. YKK and Arthur Thomas Ware

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“Who stole your happiness?   Who do you blame?   What’s that?   You don’t blame anyone…it just went.   Where did it go, then?   Where?

“What do you mean, where?”

“Where did your happiness go?”

“How would I know?”

“All right, let me ask you this then:  “Who stole your anger?”

“Nobody steals anger.   Who would want it?”

“Exactly:  Who would want it?   So why do we get it?”

“It’s…it just comes up.   It’s a sorta reaction.   Somebody does something and…”

“You lose your temper, right?   You lose your cool?

“Well, yes.”

“So where does anger come from?”

“I dunno.   It just happens.”

“It must come from somewhere.”

“Yeah, I suppose so.   Inside- it comes from inside.

“Really?    Whereabouts?”

“In our, er, brains.”

“So you’re saying that we have anger in our brains?”

“Where else could it be.”

“Good question.   I suspect that it’s all around us and in us.”

“That’s silly.”

“ Is it?   When we take a picture with a camera the things photographed and the light which brings it to the camera lens are outside of the camera, yet the photograph is recorded within.   It’s suddenly stored within on  the film, or now, in digital form.    We didn’t manufacture the scene outside, or the light waves that brought the scene to the camera.   They existed outside.  –   Ever heard of auras?

“You mean like haloes and such?”

“Yes.   There are clairvoyant people who can see all sorts of things outside of people, things within people’s auras.   A really competent clairvoyant can see emotions such as anger and jealousy, that sort of thing, in our auras.   Some of ‘em say they’re seeing it in our emotional bodies. “    They come up as various moving colours forever changing shape as we think.   Sorta like clouds around us.  Nowadays we can even take moving pictures of them.”

“You trying to tell me anger and jealousy could be outside of us?”

“Depends what you mean by us.?”


“Do we start somewhere in the middle of our physical bodies and end at our skin?   Do we, as a person, end at the tips of the hair on our heads?”

“What are you getting at?”

“Give someone a cuddle and we can feel their body heat, right?    We can even be standing close but not touching them and still feel the heat radiating from them.   Are we feeling their body heat as something distinct from them?   Or are we feeling them?”

“No, mate, we’re feeling what they’re radiating.”

“But that heat comes into you.   You not only feel it on your skin, it warms you up, would you agree?

“Yes.   People have survived exposure in the wild by cuddling up to their dogs.”

“What’s doing the warming?”

“Don’t know what you mean.  Can you explain, please?

“Sure.    Body heat is heat-energy.   It’s energy.   It is vibrations, wavelets of energy- so is your physical body.   Yes, skin, fat, muscles, tendons, bones, all of it.  They’re energy, too.   Vibrations that radiate other energies.   Your could say they are gross energies.  But we have all sorts of subtle energies, such as those produced by our endocrine glands.   Then, of course, there’s our body-heat.”


“So how do we really know where we start and end?  Do we really end at our skins?”

“You’ve lost me.”

“What I’m trying to tell you is that to say we are contained only within our skins is a commonly made arbitrary decision inculcated by our cultural conditioning.  We assume it this way.  That decision is based upon the way we perceive the universe, not how it is.    Each of us thinks of ourselves as separate because our senses tell us this is the case.   Also each of us thinks of ourselves as the centre of the universe.  We’re in here.   Everything else is out there.”

“And we are, if you ask me..”

“Yes, we are and we aren’t.   We appear to be contained in our bodies.   We believe our thinking only occurs within ourselves and no one else is affected by it unless we take a physical action.   We think it all stops, as I said, at our skin, all this emotional stuff, the thinking part of us.   We generate it.   It stays within us – unless we speak or move.  That’s our belief.  We appear to be contained in our physical bodies, but if we are, in what part?”

“What part?   Stupid question…in our brains.”

“But our brains are just energy, vibrations, wavelets.   There is nothing constant about them except, maybe the patterns they’ve temporarily taken on; neural pathways, that sort of thing.  So where abouts are we?   Where, exactly?”

“You’ve lost me.”

“That I can understand.  Because if you want to find out what you are, you’ll never find out with your brain.    Your brain is an organ of the body.”

“Yeah…then what about our minds?”

“Ah, now you’re getting somewhere.   But where do you think your mind is?”

“In your brain?”

“Some think so.”

“And you don’t?”

“No.  Certainly not entirely.   But let’s find out more, eh?   Let’s read some more of the book…”


In our last post on this blog, regarding our book, “Who Stole Your Happiness, and how you can reclaim your rightful ownership,” we presented the book’s preface.   We hope that what you read there prompted you to want to read further so…here is that ‘further.’   We present here the first part of the Introduction.    Enjoy the read.

                        Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life,

                        the whole aim and end of human existence.


                                                                         Greek Philosopher

A man had been searching for meaning in his life.   Years went by.  Frustrated, he changed jobs, careers, countries, searching, searching –  nothing seemed to satisfy him.   Then, at fifty years of age, immediately after attending an intense ten-day Vipassana Meditation course, meditating eleven hours a day in total silence, he undertook a *Rebirthing session.   Probably because the Rebirthing session followed only one day after the arduous ten days of isolation and silence, he was regressed right back until the time he was born.   This man experienced his beginning in his present life.   It was then that the answer to his search for meaning was revealed to him:

            He had been born to make people happy.

            I know this story to be true, for I, Arthur Thomas Ware, am this man.    More on this particular story will be revealed later.   But this book is not about me, but about you, the reader.  So let us get on…

            Happiness, ah, happiness…we all want it.  If you go into many of the search engines available today endeavoring to find a definition of the word, happiness, you’re liable to become quite frustrated –  unhappy even.   There are hundreds of references:  books, essays, historical treatises, ancient and modern philosophical discourses, poems, quotes  – everything, it seems, but a nice, terse definition one can get one’s ‘thinking gear’ around.   There are articles by learned professors, clergymen, statesmen and lay people.   Everyone but everyone seems to have an opinion about what  it is – but no one can actually define it.   What does become clear, however, is that although almost everyone is interested in happiness: very few seem to know much about it.   So if someone stole ours, how on earth are we going to get it back?

*Rebirthing:  commonly used term whereby a person is regressed back to the time they were born.     Wikepedia: Rebirthing-Breathwork – a form of alternative medicine consisting of a breathing technique.

The dictionary endeavors to explain the word happy as follows:  (of person or circumstance) to be “lucky, fortunate, contented with one’s lot.”   It doesn’t even bother to try to explain “happiness,” probably because the lexicographer who put the dictionary together found it just too hard.   This happiness thing seems to confuse everyone.

            You see, so many people feel they know what happiness is because, at one time or another, they remember having experienced it.    They know it exists.  What they find difficult to comprehend is how they came to experience it in the first place.   It seems to always be something that ‘once was,’ and perhaps maybe ‘found again.’    But how one finds it appears to be a mystery.    Was it really stolen from us?   Did we ever really have it?

            This book is specifically designed so that you might pause and ponder.   Pause and ponder what?   On how you can reclaim your ownership to what is rightfully yours – happiness.   You’ll notice that every title and subtitle asks you a question.   Do pause and ponder.   We cannot make you happy.  We can only help you to evoke responses already within you.   Those responses will more readily surface if you take your time…reflect…think back…allow the intuitive response.   The so-called, “ah-ha,” or “eureka” moment can only come out of silence.

            But enough on that.   Let’s get started.

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